If You Haven't Reached Success in Your 20s, it's Ok

The pressure to be successful in your 20s is at an all time high living in an age where social media narrates everything. I see so many 23 year olds living this glamorous life of driving BMWs and flying to Europe every chance they get. Their YouTube channels have 1.2 million subscribers and from what they’re saying they don’t work a corporate job. I start to wonder what the heck I’m doing wrong and how did I reach my mid-twenties still figuring out my goals. We’ve all thought this way from time to time and I’ll admits it’s normal.

I’ve been a full time artist for about 2 years now but overall I’ve been an artist since 2012. It’s now been 5 years and I just hit 10k on Instagram last week. I work pretty hard and I’m producing work regularly. I just knew there was a missing ingredient to my formula because 5 years of doing this artrepreneur thing should’ve taken me somewhere by now. I turn to my faith a lot and just do what mom says, pray. I know this is what I’m destined to do but I just don’t understand the timeline. If you’ve felt this way, now you can breathe to know you’re not alone. This is when I wish more successful, famous individuals or whatever we call them would share their stories more. From the outside all we see is their fame and glory but some are so afraid to speak on how they got there and how they felt before they got to where they are now. Then again, those who don’t speak their story aren’t my role models, but still.

In my free time I watch a lot of interviews of those I look up to or have found interest in their careers. Yesterday I sat for 3 hours watching interviews with Issa Rae, Yvonne Orji and Tiffany Haddish. I’ve been a fan of Issa since I discovered her in 2013. Her YouTube channel is addicting and I stumbled upon it after finishing every series on Black & Sexy TV’s channel. So after watching Insecure last year and loving Yvonne I wanted to learn more about them. These women are so inspiring for the mere fact that there African (born), college degree women who are over 30. Yes all have peaking careers after hitting 30. They had dreams and they chased them no matter how long it took to reach their success. Tiffany Haddish’s interviews really hit me because she is the definition of beautifying your struggle. Just looking at her you’d never know she was homeless at one point, living out of her car. Now she’s in the top box office comedy movie Girl’s Trip (yes to #BlackGirlMagic). After watching these videos and hearing these women speak positivity into their future and being happy at reaching success in their 30s, single with no kids, man was I ready to get back to work.

So now I sit back and think that 5 years isn’t that long when a lot of women whom I call role models have been in their growing stage for 8 or 9 years before the first big gig came. It brings a calmness to me and a sense of relief to not rush my success. I’m starting to appreciate where I’m at as a 26 year old artrepreneur. I can’t say it’s easy but it’s reality. Sometimes we need to put things into perspective and be realistic with ourselves. So if you’re in your 20s and haven’t hit your success, just know it’s ok. Seriously, you’re going to be just fine.