You Are Who You Surround Yourself With

How often do you look at who you’re surrounding yourself with? Sometimes we don’t realize that the friends, family or even those we follow on social media influence us more than we think. You know, it’s like the old say “birds of feather, flock together”. Most of the time you are very similar to those you surround yourself with. Every once in a while, I have to check in with myself to make sure the ones I’m in contact with regularly are on the same page as me in life.

Your circle of supporters/friends are vital to your success! It’s probably is as important as what you’re doing and how you hold yourself accountable for doing it. I’m happy that I learned this lesson before my mid 20s because now I’m able to filter out friends that aren’t benefiting or impacting me in a positive way. Learning what friends you can involve deeply in your life and those who you should let be loved from a distance can be tricky. I guess the biggest part is identifying what you need in a supporter. I challenge you to create of list of what you need in a friend/supporter, kinda like a job description. Do you need a circle of friends who have the same passion as you? Does integrity and honesty matter to you? Do you need a friend who cheers on every decision you make or do you just need a friend who will be keep it real with you? Remember this circle of support will directly influence your life. You will pick up habits from them, they opinions will affect you and your reputation will be based off of them.

Since it’s still he beginning of the year, it’s a perfect time to reevaluate some influential people in your life. Are they holding you back from your goal or pushing you towards it? Are they bringing you joy and peace or unnecessary stress or drama? This is something we have to think about every so often. Who you are surrounding yourself with should be as a fastidious process as choosing what skin care products you use, what you consume or the things you put your energy into. I’ll admit that I’ve let relationships and friendships take up too much time and energy than they should’ve when they weren’t the most positive things. Sometimes it’s because of the history of the relationship or not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings, but this is when we should be selfish and selective. There are some things in life we can’t control, but who we allow in our life is one of those things we have full control over. So let’s start taking back that control.